Four Keys to Being a Godly Dad 

What a fantastic Father’s Day at Grace! There was a sound that was released on Sunday as men filled the altar and boldly cried out for the Holy Spirit to come rest upon them and their families.  After service a precious woman in our church shared with me, how when she heard the men singing, it broke off of her years of hurt and offense she had carried towards her own father.  There was a sound of healing released as the men stood shoulder to shoulder like trees of righteousness.  

King David wrote…

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.”

Psalm 1:1-3 ESV

I shared on Sunday that Dads make the difference!  It’s so true.  Dad, there is no replacement for the impact that you can make in your children’s lives.  It doesn’t matter where you have failed in the past, if you still have breath, you still have an opportunity to make a difference in the life of your family. 

Let me give you with four quick keys on how to make an impact:

1. Be Present

Study after study shows that the healthiest, most effective environment for a child to be raised is in a loving home where both the mother and father of the child is present.   This shouldn’t be a surprise as this is the way God designed it from the beginning.  Mom and dad each play an important role in the life of their children that is difficult to replace.  This is especially true of Dads.  Our presence in the life of our children is the most reliable predictor of their future success.  Be present.  Listen to them.   Love them.  Encourage them.  

2. Bring Presence

Alongside being present in their life, it is also important that you bring the presence of the Lord into the home.  Joshua boldly proclaimed, “as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD” (Jos 24:15).  Pray for your family.  Let them hear you praying for them.  Let them catch you in the mornings spending time with Jesus.  Share with them what Jesus is speaking to you.  Set the standard for holiness and righteousness in your home.  

3. Build Patience 

Patience is not a discipline we are born with.  It’s one we have to learn to build like a muscle.  We exercise patience.  This requires a willful choice to be slow to anger and wise in our responses.  Our family and children grow over many seasons.  That means that what we plant today will not always bear fruit as quickly as we want.  The law of sowing and reaping takes time.  It is sobering to realize that problems you are dealing with today are a consequence of seeds sown years ago.  The good news is you can change it.  But it takes intentional sowing of seeds of righteousness and lots of patience.  

4. Be Persistent

Let consistency become your super power.  You can’t control what others will do.  You can’t control what culture will do.  However, you can control what you do.  I’ve determined in my life, regardless of others ups and downs, I will remain consistent.  True to my values and vision.  I will not sacrifice what’s important for the latest crisis or trend.  Choose to remain steady and stable no matter what comes your way.  Be that tree planted firmly by the streams of life.   If you do, you’ll bear fruit in every season and your children will know that when the storms come, there is one person in their life who offers a place of safety and rest.  

Know that I believe in you, and I am praying for you.  You make the difference!  


PS… Join us this weekend as we welcome special guest speaker Pastor Kurt Owen.  Kurt Owen left a successful career in executive protection and investigation for full-time ministry more than 25 years ago. Not your average minister, he still enjoys shooting firearms, hand-to-hand combat, and the occasional protection assignment. He is known for making things simple, practical and to the point with illustrations that make things come alive and easy to remember.